Does the "Lesbian Continuum" Exist?: Choices, Single Women and Social Sexuality. For women who justify patriarchy on the grounds of heterosexuality it is time they realised that being "normal" should ideally mean something more than just being sexual. It is time that they realise that rather than them being "frigid" women like Singh and Kapoor are in control of their passions instead of the case being vice-versa.
Adrienne Rich's concept of the "Lesbian Continuum", took the notion of feminine sorority and bonding a lot further. The term for Rich meant talking about the commonality of "woman-identified experience, not simply the fact that a woman has had or consciously desired genital sexual experience with another woman." This of course had far ringing ideas in the realm of feminism, which normally, as an ideological construct, seeks to demolish the patriarchal constructs in society. In that sense, what Rich was propounding brought the women much closer beyond, of course, the clinical definitions of lesbianism that were doing the rounds till now. However, what comes as a shocker or more appropriately a wake-up call to reality is the visible chasm that exists between academic feminism and the social realities and the bonding between women that cannot be called supernaturally sweet. I write so, because this article is born from the dark womb of such social experiences whose searing truth scatters the myth of being born liberated and "sororitised". Sample a few cases below (The names have been changed)
Prof. Rashmi Singh - an erudite single woman with a Ph.D in Economics working at a college of repute in an Indian city. She has about 20 years of teaching experience. In the same community, where equally erudite scholars spend time with her, she gets an anonymous letter calling her various uncalled for names and questions that question her sexuality.
Ms. Swati Kapoor- A single 50 year old banker who moved to Delhi from Kolkata and says she feels "hounded" sometimes; thanks to her single and "automatically available " status-and "hounded" not by men's advances as by females bickering about the issue.
Now, both these instances are only a small indication of how the lives of women are still circumscribed by what I would like to term "Social sexuality" - or let us even say, the age old concept of "compulsory heterosexuality" (once again, given by Rich). The former, however, feels better placed because one knows that as a woman one must be clear and ready with one's sexual stance or be prepared to be classified as an "abnormal" woman. What irks is not the physical threat that women do often face in the society, but the psychological and internal threats that make it nearly impossible for lives to bloom in fullness as far as women are concerned.
Whereas the working women feel better positioned to handle, confront or ignore such issues or threats, the worst placed are those vulnerable women who are not equally immune to such onslaughts and that is exactly from where social problems get a green go ahead! In a day and age when the screams of liberation resound in the skies and innumerable Indian women just like their counterparts all over the world are choosing to live single and independent lives, sexuality still appears to haunt and capture the heart of social sickness.
French feminists have already argued much in the field. If Monique Wittig feels that lesbianism is the correct answer to patriarchy and spells women's sorority, Helene Cixous has gone a step further to elaborate how women must step into the "Realm of the Gift" and learn to give for celebration of their selves without worrying for the 'wrong' or 'right' kind of barter with men - and then ultimately, for all of these women, sexuality gets trapped in the 'right' kind of linguistic action that connotes freedom from bondages. However, for women like Singh and Kapoor, who are still unknown to the academic aspects of feminist ideology, life does not become any easier because they have experienced the shattering of the dreamy concept of sorority first hand. How could one define this? Stark individuality?
Or the fear of Individuality? or better still, the Jealousy of Individuality? For women who justify patriarchy on the grounds of heterosexuality it is time they realised that being "normal" should ideally mean something more than just being sexual. It is time that they realise that rather than them being "frigid" women like Singh and Kapoor are in control of their passions instead of the case being vice-versa. Is it not THIS that separates humans from beasts and leads to the ultimate goal of Human life?...provided we know and consider that goal as spiritual elevation of the Self. And it is also time they realised that an unsolicited participation in the personal lives of other people so as to create psychological imbalances and encourage diffidence is not going to amount to any virtue at all...indeed it might well be classed as a sin. It is time that they learn that more than exercising a control over the others it is how to exercise control over one 's own Self. Things spell trouble when even for those who belong to the academia, learning remains confined to books and academic discussions and we miserably fail to adopt the wisdom and use it in our lives to benefit others.
Dr. Sheba Rakesh
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